Tag: Let Go

Your Approach

“To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.”

Eckhart Tolle

It is so easy to find yourself complaining over and over about the people in your life or difficult situations you find yourself in. It often is easier to point out all the negative that is stressing you out rather than figuring out how you’re going to move forward. Indeed, each of us have been guilty of subjecting a loved one to constant complaints about our work, friends, family, etc. Instead, maybe it’s time to try something else because I find myself even more worked up, frustrated, and stressed out after one of these dare I say rants ….Trying to look at these situations objectively I can admit that perhaps a change in strategy may be needed. My new approach is to say my opinion regarding a situation, then step back and see how things will play out.  This allows you to gain perspective by distancing yourself from the situation. Sometimes the right action/choice may be completely removing yourself from a situation or environment. It may mean limiting contact with certain people. Or, the situation may resolve itself without you doing anything but allowing time to work it’s magic. 

Take Charge of Your Life

“Letting go is never a sign of failure, letting go is knowing what battle to fight and what battle to “let it be”.. Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care anymore, it is just directing your false hope to something more worthy of your emotions, energy and time.. Letting go is simply taking charge and control over yourself rather than fighting windmills like a modern day Don Quixote…”

― Zena Abou Alnaser

 It’s been awhile since I’ve last posted on here. To be honest, I let myself get lost in all the things going on in my life and I lost my inspiration. I lost sight of why I had created the blog over two years ago.  Each post I wrote began to feel more robotic and I no longer felt connected to what I was writing. It was like I was on auto pilot and before I knew it, it had been almost six months since I “blogged.”  In fact, it had almost been the same amount of time since I wrote period. No journals, no poetry, no freestyle, nada, zilch. 

Why? Simple, I let myself get caught up in the chaos around me.  I let myself get sucked into the drama and bullshit surrounding me in my personal and professional life. I found myself obsessing and becoming emotionally strung out on situations, people, and circumstances that were out of my control.  I spent way too much time and energy on people and situations that weren’t worth it. For it’s so easy to give in to the pettiness of a person being a crappy friend or a difficult coworker when you are in the midst of the “battle.”  It’s difficult to have clarity and perspective when you’ve been hurt or your pride insulted. This was where I found myself…and it felt like deja vu. Like haven’t I ridden on this train before and vowed to not repeat that experience…

Well, I finally reached a point a little while ago where I’m like what am I doing and this has gotten old. I asked myself why I was allowing myself to become a prisoner of the past, the negative, and toxic situations…once again.  The answer….Bad habits. I’ve decided enough is enough…I’m done repeating the same old, tired routines.  I’m working on letting go of that which haunts me….the old hurts and bitterness so I can focus on the present and what I do have control over. And guess what? Somewhere along the lines, I’ve found my inspiration to write again. Through letting go of the burdens I’ve held on to for far too long, I feel lighter, freer, more balanced and empowered.  I’m taking back control and it feels good. I’m embracing less structure and more free spirit. So, instead of vowing to post everyday or once a week like I did before….I will say I will post as inspiration hits me. This is me choosing to take unnecessary pressure off myself…this is me taking control.

Lighten Up

Lighten up, just enjoy life, smile more, laugh more, and don’t get so worked up about things.

– Kenneth Branagh

          Don’t take life too seriously. Life is too short to allow yourself to get worked up over the meaningless bullshit that happens everyday. And if you allow yourself to get stressed out about every little thing, you’re going to drive yourself crazy and be miserable. So, instead, choose to smile and laugh more. You will find that you feel lighter, freer, and happier by not getting worked up about everything that happens.

Walk Away

“The greatest win is walking away and choosing not to engage in drama and toxic energy at all.”

― Lalah Delia

           Throughout life you will continually come across toxic people, whether it be your family or coworkers. There will never be a short supply of people waiting to try to take your happiness away by spewing their negativity around you. But, you must always remember that although you can’t control other people’s actions, you can control how you react to them. Choose to take the high road of integrity and don’t stoop down to their level. Be the bigger person, be the mature adult in the situation. Do not compromise your values and standards. For you stand to gain nothing by engaging in their petty behavior.

Enjoy the Moment

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.”

– Earl Nightingale

         Life is too short to waste time sweating the meaningless bullshit that lurks around every corner. You will be absolutely miserable if you get upset about every disagreement, problem, and circumstance you encounter. So, instead, you must focus on letting go of things that won’t matter 6 months from now. And focus on the important aspects of life such as spending time with the people you love and spreading joy to others.

Let It Go

“Anger … it’s a paralyzing emotion … you can’t get anything done. People sort of think it’s an interesting, passionate, and igniting feeling — I don’t think it’s any of that — it’s helpless … it’s absence of control — and I need all of my skills, all of the control, all of my powers … and anger doesn’t provide any of that — I have no use for it whatsoever.”

― Toni Morrison

        Anger helps no one, no situation, and more importantly, it hurts you. Holding onto anger prevents you from moving forward and leaves you stuck with the baggage of yesterday. So, you must learn to let go, and heal so that you can progress forward in your life and relationships.

Forget the Map

“The best parts of life are the things we can’t plan. And it’s a lot harder to find happiness if you’re only searching in one place. Sometimes, you just have to throw away the map. Admit that you don’t know where you’re going and stop pressuring yourself to figure it out. Besides…a map is a life someone else already lived. It’s more fun to make your own.”

― Cora Carmack, Finding It

        Life doesn’t come with a map detailing all possible routes leading to your destination. No, life is meant to be a journey of self-discovery where you walk along paths that haven’t been traveled . . . paths that lead into the unknown. For when you travel through life without a predefined map or guide, you open yourself up to a world filled with unimaginable possibilities.

The Journey of Today

“The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.”

― Steve Maraboli,
Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

           To move forward in life, you must close the door on yesterday’s regrets. For in order to fully embrace what today has to offer, you must free yourself of the chains tying you to your past. Open your heart and mind to new opportunities and new beginnings.

Start Anew

“We grow up with such an idealistic view on how our life should be; love, friendships, a career or even the place we will live ~ only to age and realise none of it is what you expected & reality is a little disheartening, when you’ve reached that realisation; you have learnt the gift of all, any new beginning can start now and if you want anything bad enough you’ll find the courage to pursue it with all you have. The past doesn’t have to be the future, stop making it so.”

― Nikki Rowe

         Change is scary. But, the key is to never let fear or disenchantment prevent you from pursuing the life you want. You can start anew at any point in your life…it is never too late to change the ending of your story!! Find the courage and strength within yourself to go after what truly matters most to you.